The Day After

People are incredibly predictable. Today feels a lot like that November day in 2008. Some people happy, others very unhappy. Some people like to get philisophical about how we should all act, treat each other, etc. 

I'm always ALL for working together to solve a common goal, but how we didn't learn our lesson four years ago is baffling. This president, nor individuals in congress believe in non-partisanship. We're going to be faced with the same problems, same issues as we are today in 2016. Except of course, we'll all be paying out of our nose in taxes trying to afford Obamacare. 

I've expressed my displeasure with "status quo" politics before and until we come to the realization of not accepting this problem, we will continue to spiral downward. 

The liberty movement within the Republican party is a strong one and is continuing to gain momentum. We'll be pushing candidates like Justin Amash (reelected in MI-3), Thomas Massie (KY-4), Ted Yoho (FL-3), and David Schweikert (AZ-6), Kerry Bentivolio (MI-11, and of course Sen. Rand Paul (Ron Paul's son) who should make a strong run in 2016 for the Presidency. If you're not familiar with this movement, make yourself informed. Candidates and ideals like this are the future face of the now broken Republican party. 

So here's to 2014, and eventually 2016!

Serving Up Hate?

This will be brief because I myself am tired of hearing about this whole, completely blown out of proportion Chick-Fil-A saga. I've seen a few posts on facebook and twitter saying that instead of spending my money on chicken, I should donate it to a homeless shelter or just save it for a much worthier cause.

I don't necessarily disagree. In fact, I do agree.

But ultimately, what I do with my money what you do with your money are two completely different things. My money is my money and your money is your money. Money is a private matter. I don't appreciate someone telling me what I should do with it. I've also seen that if I support Chick-Fil-A, then I'm "supporting hate." That is the most asinine comment I've seen through this whole thing.

I want to see a show of hands of how many of these anti-Chick folks are going to not buy gas anymore because owners of OPEC put homosexuals to death.

I'm still waiting for those hands...

How about backing off what somebody's personal beliefs are. I don't necessarily agree with Cathy's "stance" either, but I RESPECT someone for standing up for what they believe in. And whether you want to admit it or not, IT IS about First Amendment rights, and Chick-Fil-A shouldn't be chastised for their belief someone ASKED them about. Dan Cathy never said he hated gays. There is a difference between having an opinion and hating someone.

And what Chick-Fil-A does with THEIR money is THEIR business. Just in case you forgot. But at the same token, if you don't want to spend your money at the Chick, no one is, and has ever made you. Stop using things like this for your own propaganda. If you really want to make a difference in the gay rights arena, go to your local congressman (or congresswoman) and insist that government stop making it a GOVERNMENT issue.

Ok, so maybe this wasn't that brief after all, but sometimes things just need to be said. 

We Didn't Invent the Chicken (Or Your Opinions Either)

It goes without saying that obviously in the eyes of the media, Chick-Fil-A is not the most popular fast food eatery this week among some people. Chick-Fil-A President Dan Cathy told the Baptist Press that his restaurant has always supported the 'traditional marriage'

"We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that," Cathy told the Baptist Press, the news agency of the Southern Baptist Convention.

Now obviously in today's age of franchises such as Oreo coming out in support of gay marriage, one coming out against isn't going to be the popular one among some individuals in the LGBT community and beyond. 

Here's my issue.

It isn't going to affect me what Oreo or Chick-fil-A's "stance" is on a certain topic. As long as they continue to do what they've done to be successful companies and serving their customers the best way they know how, it doesn't affect me. What's being misinterpreted in what Cathy said, is the fact that he never said that he or Chick-Fil-A hated people who are gay. He was simply answering a question and gave his stance.

People have to learn to respect both sides of an issue. You don't have to agree with Cathy or what Chick-Fil-A stands for, but agreeing with someone and respecting them is a whole other issue. I have plenty of folks who disagree with me daily, and that's fine. I respect their opinion and you should respect mine.

With that being said, I do not feel companies and franchises need to employ a "company stance"  in what they believe on these issues. Neither Chick-Fil-A nor Oreo are politically driven organizations. We don't (or shouldn't) look at franchises or celebrities to decide who we should vote for come election time. We don't need to know and quite frankly, if some of you actually knew what stance certain companies would take if they had to, you would probably wouldn't like it, whether you would be boycotting one way or another. I thought it was silly for people to boycott Oreo for their rainbow cookie in support of equality, and I think it is equally silly for folks to boycott Chick-Fil-A.

1st amendment rights aren't just for those of the popular opinion. And obviously, it is your choice to eat their chicken or not. Has been and always will. No one is forcing you to support them, and no one is telling you that you can't eat there either. That's the beauty of living in this country of ours. (For now)

If you've ever ate at Chick-Fil-A, than you know the type of courteous, friendly, sensible service you've come to appreciate eating at one of their establishments. Chick-Fil-A holds their employees to very high standards, and after speaking with people who have worked at a Chick-Fil-A, they require to you to be extra polite (i.e. "My Pleasure").

Next time you're in a Burger King, take note. That ain't happening.

Obviously if you know me, you know I believe anyone should be allowed to marry whoever they choose, for reasons I oppose government force, but that's another blog post. Also if you know me, you know I am a huge Chick-Fil-A fan. But honestly, it wouldn't matter to me who it was.

But lastly, let's really think about what we're doing if we boycott Chick-Fil-A. Are they going to be so affected so much that they run into bankruptcy? Not a chance. Are you going to be doing anything to promote equality if you don't eat chicken? No. 

So for heaven's sake, let's hop down from our perch a top the high horse, get a grip on reality, and start worrying about more important things, like the upcoming Presidential race. 

Chick-Fil-A released this statement earlier: 

"The Chick-fil-A culture and service tradition in our restaurants is to treat every person with honor, dignity and respect — regardless of their belief, race, creed, sexual orientation or gender," according to the statement. "Going forward, our intent is to leave the policy debate over same-sex marriage to the government and political arena," it said.

Concert Observations

For Caitlin's 30.... errr I mean 29th Birthday, we went to the Brothers of The Sun Concert at Bank of America Stadium to see Jake Owen, Grace Potter, Tim McGraw, and Kenny Chesney.

Just a few observations I made:

1) They make a killing on beer at concerts (And they could make more)

2) To stand up or not stand up? Generally to the few concerts I've been to, everyone stands up. That's common practice as I understand. There was a group of middle aged ladies in front of us who either had never been to a concert before, or the ones they have been to before, they sat. They made a fuss with the folks in front of them asking them to sit down. Naturally, they told them they were sorry and continued to stand. Eventually everyone stood up, but seriously? Stand up!

3) Even if you're not a fan of Kenny Chesney or Tim McGraw, they know how to put on a good concert.

4) There's always plenty of people watching entertainment while you wait.

5) I wore an App State shirt (shocking I know), and I had about 5 people either come up to me and high five me or shake my hand. It doesn't surprise me anymore.

6) Set change music? Apple Bottom Jeans, Country Grammar.....

7) Apparently I enjoy walking extra distances

8) Why I didn't go to more concerts when I was in high school or college is beyond me.

Attempting To Understand Differences

Over the last month or two, one thing we've heard all about all over facebook and twitter is about Amendment One. I very lightly advocated against amendment one. Mainly I just asked folks to be aware of what they were voting on before they went to the polls. Unfortunately, most people were not aware of what exactly they were voting on. It somehow turned into a gay marriage debate.

No matter where you stand on gay marriage, you could have still voted against this terrible piece of legislation. It wouldn't have meant anything against you personally. You can still not be in agreeance with someone and have voted against this amendment. This amendment may or may not have affected you personally, but all the same, it's not all about you (or me).

In my eyes (maybe I'm crazy), but allowing someone the same right as me to wed who I choose is exactly that, a right. I believe in life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness for everyone. It doesn't matter if someone isn't the same as me or doesn't believe in the same things I believe in. That is obsolete. You can still be strong in your Christian beliefs and want basic rights for everyone. Someone else's marriage, whether it be a straight or gay doesn't affect me. In other words, it's none of my business.

While I don't think government has a right to decide marriage, I also don't think churches should be forced to marry anyone they do not choose to marry. It's as simple as that. I have many different kinds of friends, and I love and respect each of them. That's the way I was raised. My entire life, I have always tried to treat people with love and respect because it's how I would like to be treated. This isn't a crazy concept, but accepting someone who might be different than you is hard for some folks to do. I understand it's not the easiest thing in the world, but denying someone a basic right (which by the way our state already had a law to begin with), is not o.k. in my book.

I have and still do identify myself as a conservative more or less leaning libertarian, and so often I am lumped into belonging to a certain political group. Most people have probably always assumed I am a staunch hard-core republican, which isn't necessarily true, but I still relate to many republican values. I've also more recently been called a "liberal" for my stance on gay marriage. So because of ONE issue, I am now a bleeding heart? I don't think so. No offense to anyone who identifies as "liberal", but it's not me.

Why must we label one another? We all do it. Even I do it all the time. It's not necessarily right, but there's not one single person who is reading this that hasn't been guilty of it before. I don't want to be placed or generalized into one certain group. I am my own person. I guarantee you if you've ever really got to know me, you know there's nobody else like me. And I hope that we could all say that. We should each be our own person. You're the only carbon copy of you that there is. Why would you want to be somebody else?

I also realize it's hard for some Christians to say they're ok with gay marriage. The way I see it, God created us all equal in his eyes. We are all loved by God and are all his children. We are all called to show Christ's love through our actions and words. These actions and words are not just meant for people who are exactly like us. That's too easy. You can't be scared of what you don't understand. We as humans don't understand a lot. That's what makes us human. But continuing to degrade someone because they are different than you is ludicrous. So I come to you with an open heart, and ask you to try harder. If I as a republican, white southerner can be accepting of others, why can't anyone else?

I leave you with a favorite Bible verse of mine:

"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. "

- 1 John 4:7-8

Generalizing in Politics

Here recently I've decided to become less opinionated. At least in the political department anyways. I haven't always given my opinion freely, but sometime after I graduated college, I started to become more passionate about what I believed.

As I scroll through my facebook timeline and twitter feed on a regular basis, I observe a varying amount of different opinions, which is good, but at the same time, here lately I've started to feel like I've been lumped into belonging to a certain group, whether that be political or not. In the upcoming elections, a hot button issue that is at hand is the vote for OR against Amendment 1, which is the marriage amendment.

According to Amendment 1: The measure would define marriage in the state as between one man and one woman.[1][2] Same-sex marriage is already banned in the state of North Carolina. The proposed measure, however, would add the ban to the state constitution.[3]

No matter where you stand on this issue, your stance should be respected. Every single one of us has our own certain set of beliefs when it comes to politics. One thing I've noticed is that if you are a registered Republican, you are automatically assumed to be FOR this amendment, when is most certainly not true. I happen to be a registered Republican, but that does not mean I always vote that way, or believe what my fellow republican politicians believe. The same could be said about Democrats. Just because you are a registered Democrat by no means defines you as a person and in what you believe.

We're all different.

For me personally, I do tend to be more conservative than anything else, but that doesn't mean I'm always going to vote that way, or believe everything a Republican politician believes.

Unfortunately, our country has become a country of double standards, but that's a whole other topic which I may or may not dive into one day.

It just kills me when I see groups or facebook pages such as Crusaders Against Republicans (or vice versa). When did we all become politicians and stop being Americans? This country needs to come together and try to reach a middle ground before it's doomed. Right now, it seems we just keep heading further down a path of division, instead of unity. I'm not naive enough to realize there will probably never be true unity in Washington, but if we keep becoming divided by issues such as same-sex marriage or whether or not we should pray in public meetings or not, we're never going to get anything real accomplished. These issues are certainly of importance, but our country has far more important issues at stake.

I guess what I'm really trying to ask, is to be more open-minded when you go to the polls. Both sides of the political spectrum could use some sound level-headed advice.

Understanding Tebow mania

Tim Tebow, now currently quarterbacking the Denver Broncos to playoff wins, has always stood out. He's often been perceived by his naysayers as the "chosen one" who can do no wrong. Tebow is very forthcoming, but not "pushy" about his Christian faith. He's always been a great example as what Christians should be. This bothers some people.

 The problem with Tebow is the media has placed him on a pedestal, for which he did not ask to be placed on. Tebow has only went out and did his job. As a sports fan and Christian, I am a big Tebow supporter. But I'm also realistic, and know he's not your prototypical style quarterback. He may not ever be the greatest there ever was and he may be. I personally don't feel he'll ever be an elite quarterback, but I feel he will win a lot of ballgames.

 He has a good defense on his side this year, and that has helped, but the guy just knows how to win. He and the Denver Broncos beat a good Steelers team in overtime. Yes, the Steelers were banged up and missing their starting running back and one of their top defensive players, and I can recognize that, but the Broncos did what they had to do. But back to Tebow. Like him, love him, or hate him, you have to admit, you won't find a better role model for young people.

The guy doesn't sell drugs, doesn't have 15 children with 7 other women, and he doesn't play dirty. He is who he is, and he's not going to pretend to be anything else to better suit our politically correct society. That's why he relates so well with so many Christians. He doesn't push his faith in your face, but he will talk about it openly when asked, and he will show the Lord's love through his actions. What else do you want the guy to do? I suppose if suddenly one day, it came out of the woodwork that he had done something bad, he would become more relatable to some people. But that day has yet to happen. The media does overhype him, unfortunately. They criticize his every pass and run. Whether he should've done this or that, or he's just really not that good.

When someone hears his name every day, naturally they're going to tire of hearing it, just like anything else. Tebow can't help what the media says or writes about him. All his concern is going out and trying to be the best player he can be for the Denver Broncos. But to some people, he'll never be good enough.

I suppose if his career fizzles out, and he ends up having a nice, but not special tenure in the NFL over a 10-15 year period, and he never has a pro bowl season, or wins an NFC Championship game or a Superbowl, his naysayers will be right that he was never anything special. And you know what? As long as Tebow does what he does, and continues to be himself, I think he'd be alright with that. But I believe bigger things are in store for Tim.

 One more note I want to hit on before I sign off: Tebowing. Yes, the new craze sweeping the nation. Before games, Tebow prays silently to himself on the sideline, and gets down on one knee to do so. Apparently everyone from 11 year old boys, to 38 year old men have taken to emulating Tebow in his praying stance, and dubbed it "Tebowing." Very catchy I might add, and at first I thought it was funny. But after a while, I got to thinking (which is always dangerous), and the more I saw it, the more it bothered me. As a Christian, I am lucky to live in a country where I can pray and practice the religion that I was raised. I also supposed I could be overreacting to it bothering me, but then again, am I? Mocking one's faith is never cool in my book. And I may get in trouble for saying this, but I'm gonna say it anyways. If Tebow were a Jew or Muslim, and his praying were mocked on the sidelines, the world as we know it would be in a huge uproar. Religious leaders from around the world be calling for justice to be done on anyone mocking their faith. But I know, as Christains, we're just supposed to laugh and shrug it off as nothing, which we have. In reality, it's really NOT a big deal, even though it is getting a bit old. But I can live with it. I respect others religions and the way they want to practice their religion. Is it too much to ask for others to do the same?

 If you've stuck with my ramblings for this long, you must enjoy my writing, or you must like me. I welcome any civil discussion, and I'm always willing to look at things through different lenses. But for now, I can't wait to see what Tebow does next. And you shouldn't either.